NO, YOU ACTUALLY GIVE A DAMN ABOUT IT

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You know how sometimes we like to pretend that stuff doesn’t get to us?

No, I’m not talking about getting a rejection email or not being promoted like everyone else. I’m not even talking about not being noticed by somebody you like. Well, this last one hurts. Sorry if that’s you.

I’m talking about having issues in your personal relationships.

Wait, did you just say “here, we go again?”. Heck, yes! Here we go again.

I’m writing this for two reasons.

Firstly, I’m feeling bad (you can guess why but I’ll tell you. Meanwhile, if you don’t know why YOU are feeling bad, check out one of my posts titled Why you feel bad all the time). So, I’m feeling bad because I’m having little issues with a family member.

Secondly, I’m writing to help you if you’re at this point or for when you get to this point (because you will get here some time. Nope, it’s not a curse. You’re a human sharing earth with other humans).

A friend will often tell me,” Stop talking to the public about your problems because they don’t care”. I know. But I, ME, I care. I care that you’ll get to where I am or have already been through it without knowing what I know. Or maybe you’ve forgotten.

Back to the original point.

You care! I know you care that you’re having problems in your personal relationships. Now, any relationship can become as personal as we let it so let me specify. You care when you have issues with family. I mean family family. You know, blood family? Okay, mum, dad, brother, sister kinda family.

So, maybe it’s their fault. Maybe you didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe they’ve said some very hurtful things to you. really hurtful. Now, you’re not exactly on talking terms and you think you don’t give two cents about it, right? Stop lying joor. You actually care.

I know because you think about it and feel bad.

You wonder what you could have done or said to avoid the situation

You wish and hope they’re hurting too because that would mean that they care too and it means you care too. get it?

Am I right or wrong?

I want you to do something right now. Take a deep breath and close your eyes. Open them and admit to yourself that you care and you don’t like it.

That’s how to solve problems. identification.

If you’re wondering why I’m here giving you advice instead of solving my own problems, chill out a bit. I’m working on my own issues. At least, I’m bold enough to admit that I care that somebody is giving me attitude and I don’t want things to remain like that.

Have I told you that having a great relationship with your family helps you face the society? Charity begins at home baby, but it doesn’t end there. So, in other words… Wait.. I’m getting confused.

Aha! (Forget that charity adage.) What I want to say is that you’re better equipped to face other people and relate well with them if things are good at home.

So, you’ve admitted it? Good. You’re brave. It doesn’t make you a weak person. No. you’re strong enough to admit that you’re uncomfortable with conflict.

What do you do about it? Know what? I’ll write about this only after I’ve taken the steps I’d want to give you. I’m going to fix the issue I have with my family member and then I’ll come back and tell you how it went and what to do. But if you can’t wait and would want to know what to do, send me an email or a DM or something.

Here’s my id on Instagram: @ada_thelmaa. Double A at the end.

Is there something you’d like to say about family issues or personal relationship issues? Let me know in the comment section. Honestly, I’d love to hear from you.

Please share so others can benefit. Trust me many people are in this boat. Muaahh!

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YOU SHOULD COMPLAIN MORE OFTEN

          

         

          Okay, firstly, forget everything you’ve heard about positive energy. Just… just keep it in your drawer till you’re done reading this.

          You have the right to disagree with every thought/opinion expressed here. You also have the right to agree completely and share your beliefs. 

          Complaining is not evil. It can be annoying and unnecessary sometimes especially when you have consciously decided to do nothing about it.

           When you keep quiet about things that are not right or do not seem right, you destroy the chance for change to happen. A lot of things have changed in history because someone “complained” about them. Throughout the different ages, systems have been challenged and actions have been taken to change those concerns because someone complained.

          You know how you would rant about how you need to get new shoes or how hungry you are? What happens afterward? You get those things! It doesn’t matter how long it takes, it definitely comes to you.

          If nobody challenged the killing of twins in Nigeria, we wouldn’t have any today in the country simply because nobody would want to be seen as being discontent. We should be discontented with the ills in the society.

          The only problem now is that to many, anything is worth complaining about, the good ones inclusive. Some persons complain so that a vice can be accepted as the new normal.

For example, someone has actually “complained” that since such a community as the LGBTQ+ community exists, pedophiles should be included. What rubbish! That now is classical madness!

          It could be said that every complain is someone’s opinion on how things are and ought to be, true. But there are truths that are not subject to beliefs and varying opinions. Some truths are objective. You mustn’t agree but it remains the truth.

          Wonder why i call it complaining? Well, because, to complain means to speak up about a distasteful situation. You wouldn’t complain about something good unless you’re losing your sanity or the situation does not conform to your idea of good.

          There are various ways complaints are laid. These days, society prides itself on inventing different ways to rant, riot, protest, speak up about whatever it terms a distasteful situation.

          A quick look at the movies we have these days would reveal a lot being complained about. Even in the books we read!

          People speak up by changing the status quo in their little sphere of influence. We also have people who talk, who teach at conferences and seminars. We have writers who create stories around the problems they see. We have movie producers and scriptwriters who bring the problem to the screen. We have those who talk on social media. We have the musicians too.

          You should complain often. You should speak up often. Nothing was ever changed by keeping it quiet

          Newton’s 2^nd law of motion clearly applies here. A body at rest will remain at rest and a body in motion will remain in motion except an external force is imposed on it.

          What are you waiting for? Launch that campaign! Speak up now, you might be the one to herald the dawn of a new era.

What are you going to start complaining about? for me, it's dysfunctional family system/bad parenting. tell me yours in the comment section.

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DIARY OF A LAZY WRITER 4: DAYS OF PAIN.

Dear diary,

Nobody should contend with me for title if laziest writer. I've earned it.
It's been ages. It's unfortunate that what took my hand to my pen again is pain.

No,  I don't have cancer.
No,  I'm not heart broken.
But I have a broken heart.

You know that voice that always says, "give up already. It's not worth it" ? Well,  it's speaking to me right now,  loud and crystal.

Diary,  I've never known defeat in my entire life like I've known in these past months.

People probably think I'm a joke  (Whatevs!  Their thoughts are theirs anyway).
And no,  I'm not making excuses but nobody understands that it's been the craziest time of my life.

The expectations are too many. Everyone wants a perfect piece of me. Well, too bad,  I can only be excellent when whole.

I am whole. I am whole.

So I'm ending this rant right now.

If you read this and you've gotten to this point,  this break down,  this fatigue,  this pain,  tell yourself that you're whole.

You're whole.  YOU are WHOLE.

hey,  I love you. You,  reading this to the end.  Thank you darling.
Thank God for the day. It was beautiful regardless.

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5 REASONS WHY YOU NEED GLASSES

 5 REASONS WHY YOU NEED GLASSES
So, you’ve thought of getting a pair of glasses or you’ve got one or you’re just curious? Well, you’re in the right place.
In the next few lines, you’ll be finding out why you should invest in a pair or two of glasses. Apart from being your awesome friend and adviser, I'm an optometrist-in-training. Few months to go and I'll be a licensed eye-doc!
How does that affect you?
 Well, it means I have close to expert knowledge on what I’m about sharing. Sooooo, my opinion counts.
Right. Let’s get to it.

Firstly, what do I mean by glasses?
Before you roll your eyes and get off this page, read this.
Glasses are not just the pair of spectacles your mom or dad wears to read or the round dorky pair Harry Potter wears. Glasses are any type of eye-wear worn to cover the eyes. We’ll leave it at that for now.

Now, here’s why you need glasses.
Ready for the big reveal? Perhaps you know why already. Okay let’s see.

1. To protect your eyes from the harshness of the weather.
I’m sure you’re familiar with sunglasses. Almost anyone can and do own at least a pair. They are very handy in hot weather conditions and even in the cold ones too. Now, you may think that they’re meant to be worn only under the sun (because they shield your eyes from the rays of the sun). but, what about in storms?
When there’s dust and you’re in a fast-moving vehicle, glasses shield your eyes from particles and debris.

Besides, even if you own them for sunny days too, you’re quite smart. Those rays can do more harm to your eyes than you may ever notice.
So, you get it now. Get a pair of sunglasses today.

2. To correct any refractive error you may have.
There are way too may persons walking around with eyes that have optical imbalance. That doesn’t make a lot of sense, right?
Okay.
Look at it this way. Some of you can see objects that are closer but can’t see the ones that are far while others can see the farther objects but have difficulty seeing clearly and comfortably, the things that are closer.

Did you just roll your eyes and murmur, “we’re not dumb, please”?🙄
Well, that is called a refractive error. Refractive errors are aberrations that are present in the way your eyes refract light that enters it. I don’t think you’d appreciate a lecture right now but I’m sure you get the gist.
 Now, this is the most important reason you should get glasses. Don’t wait for symptoms to appear or worsen. Get your corrective lenses now!

To do that, you’d need an eye test. Talk to the optometrist closest to you. Thank me later.

3. To protect your eyes from bright light from gadgets, electronic devices and headlights of cars.
  Have you ever been in the traffic or just driving on the road and this annoying driver drives by with lights that can blind?
Have you ever rubbed your tired and smarting eyes after a long time in front of your computer?
Have you ever?
If your answer is yes to any or all the questions above, then you need glasses.
Don’t argue with me. I’m an eye-doc in training, remember?😀🤓If you doubt me, ask your optometrist. Oh and uhh, advise your parents and siblings and friends too. Let them know how smart you’ve become. You have facts to back up your claims.

4. To cover your eyes when they don’t look pretty.
I don’t know why I have a feeling that the guys reading this would be like, “well, I don’t want my eyes looking pretty”🙄
Boys and girls, men and women, listen up. We ALL have bad eye days.😐
 You might wake up with a red eye or swollen lid or maybe you cried too much after a funeral or a failed test or a breakup or whatever.
A pair of glasses would shield you from prying eyes and curious minds. You wouldn’t have to explain anything to anyone. Isn’t that nice? Say thank you.😎

5. To look stylish.
You didn’t know glasses are now fashion pieces? Oh come on! I know you know.

Well, just to remind you, glasses can be the oomph your simple outfit needs. Whether they are sunglasses or corrective spectacles, they can add a lot of spice to your outfit.

 Do you want that nerdy-stylish look? Or are you going for the multi-millionaire look? Or you simply want to look like the awesome rap-artist you aspire to be? Get a pair of glasses.

Extra tips: if you do have a refractive error and you still want to look stylish, you can! It’s all about the frames. Let your optometrist guide your choice. You can get a pair of glasses that covers two or more of the needs above.
You’re welcome.

I hope you learnt something new. You didn’t? No way. Stop joking. 😀

I’d love to hear from you.

 If there’s anything you think I left out, tell me in the comment section. If there’s anything you want me to talk about, maybe about the eyes or anything at all, ask. ASK AWAY. I’d be more than happy to connect with you.

You made it to the end of the article. Thank you. Tap the like button and share, will you? Bye for now.

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ANNOUNCEMENT

Hey lovelies! 😘

How are you? I hope this meets you well.

I got good responses concerning the last post. The topic was WHY YOU FEEL BAD ALL THE TIME.  A lot of people confirmed the reasons stated and added some.
I'll have to make another post about the other reasons people  stated.

I just want to use this opportunity to thank you all for your support so far and to say that Odd lenses wouldn't be what it is without its odd readers. Muahhh! 😘😘😙

One more thing. 😀 We're going to be having discussions about pressing issues of life in a forum called THE TRUTH ABOUT THE MATTER. Exciting,  right? The next post would be an extension of the previous.  We're going to tackle the issue of being broke. So,  get ready. It's time for financial talk. Ding ding ding!


Thanks,  thanks,  thanks,  thankssssssss.
Thanks guys.  ✌

To your success,
Thelma.

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