NO, YOU ACTUALLY GIVE A DAMN ABOUT IT

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You know how sometimes we like to pretend that stuff doesn’t get to us?

No, I’m not talking about getting a rejection email or not being promoted like everyone else. I’m not even talking about not being noticed by somebody you like. Well, this last one hurts. Sorry if that’s you.

I’m talking about having issues in your personal relationships.

Wait, did you just say “here, we go again?”. Heck, yes! Here we go again.

I’m writing this for two reasons.

Firstly, I’m feeling bad (you can guess why but I’ll tell you. Meanwhile, if you don’t know why YOU are feeling bad, check out one of my posts titled Why you feel bad all the time). So, I’m feeling bad because I’m having little issues with a family member.

Secondly, I’m writing to help you if you’re at this point or for when you get to this point (because you will get here some time. Nope, it’s not a curse. You’re a human sharing earth with other humans).

A friend will often tell me,” Stop talking to the public about your problems because they don’t care”. I know. But I, ME, I care. I care that you’ll get to where I am or have already been through it without knowing what I know. Or maybe you’ve forgotten.

Back to the original point.

You care! I know you care that you’re having problems in your personal relationships. Now, any relationship can become as personal as we let it so let me specify. You care when you have issues with family. I mean family family. You know, blood family? Okay, mum, dad, brother, sister kinda family.

So, maybe it’s their fault. Maybe you didn’t do anything wrong. Maybe they’ve said some very hurtful things to you. really hurtful. Now, you’re not exactly on talking terms and you think you don’t give two cents about it, right? Stop lying joor. You actually care.

I know because you think about it and feel bad.

You wonder what you could have done or said to avoid the situation

You wish and hope they’re hurting too because that would mean that they care too and it means you care too. get it?

Am I right or wrong?

I want you to do something right now. Take a deep breath and close your eyes. Open them and admit to yourself that you care and you don’t like it.

That’s how to solve problems. identification.

If you’re wondering why I’m here giving you advice instead of solving my own problems, chill out a bit. I’m working on my own issues. At least, I’m bold enough to admit that I care that somebody is giving me attitude and I don’t want things to remain like that.

Have I told you that having a great relationship with your family helps you face the society? Charity begins at home baby, but it doesn’t end there. So, in other words… Wait.. I’m getting confused.

Aha! (Forget that charity adage.) What I want to say is that you’re better equipped to face other people and relate well with them if things are good at home.

So, you’ve admitted it? Good. You’re brave. It doesn’t make you a weak person. No. you’re strong enough to admit that you’re uncomfortable with conflict.

What do you do about it? Know what? I’ll write about this only after I’ve taken the steps I’d want to give you. I’m going to fix the issue I have with my family member and then I’ll come back and tell you how it went and what to do. But if you can’t wait and would want to know what to do, send me an email or a DM or something.

Here’s my id on Instagram: @ada_thelmaa. Double A at the end.

Is there something you’d like to say about family issues or personal relationship issues? Let me know in the comment section. Honestly, I’d love to hear from you.

Please share so others can benefit. Trust me many people are in this boat. Muaahh!

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