ANNOUNCEMENT

Hey lovelies! 😘

How are you? I hope this meets you well.

I got good responses concerning the last post. The topic was WHY YOU FEEL BAD ALL THE TIME.  A lot of people confirmed the reasons stated and added some.
I'll have to make another post about the other reasons people  stated.

I just want to use this opportunity to thank you all for your support so far and to say that Odd lenses wouldn't be what it is without its odd readers. Muahhh! 😘😘😙

One more thing. 😀 We're going to be having discussions about pressing issues of life in a forum called THE TRUTH ABOUT THE MATTER. Exciting,  right? The next post would be an extension of the previous.  We're going to tackle the issue of being broke. So,  get ready. It's time for financial talk. Ding ding ding!


Thanks,  thanks,  thanks,  thankssssssss.
Thanks guys.  ✌

To your success,
Thelma.

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WHY YOU FEEL BAD ALL THE TIME

Wow! Do you really feel bad or you are just a curious cat? 

Well, you're here now,  right?  Let's get to it.

People get sad everyday and feel bad and frustrated.  Many of these people just wallow in their sadness without even bothering to know why.  Next thing you know,  they're depressed.  That's another game altogether.  So these could be some of the reasons why you feel bad all the time. 

1. You're broke.  Smile or laugh.  Say "duuhh" if you want but it's true.  When you don't have money to get the things you need and want,  you'll feel very bad.  Happiness is tied to material things (joy isn't though). Material things are necessary for comfort and these things are gotten with money.  So check your pocket.  Your sadness and could be because the bills are missing from your wallet. 

2. You have dysfunctional relationships: This is the big apple.  You may want to live in denial and act like nothing ruffles your clothes.  But you know the truth.  Humans are social animals.  When the relationships you have suck or let's say,  things aren't going between you and your family or your bestie or even a colleague at work,  it would make you feel bad. Many times,  it may start as a small disagreement with grudges that are swept under the carpet.  If it goes on without being resolved,  you'll have a big bulge of restlessness. Should we talk about a couple going through rough times?  It's so not happy-ish.  So,  ask yourself if you've had a fall-out with anyone at all, even if it's the lady that cleans your office. 

3. You are at a crossroad of sorts concerning something important: Okay.  Let me explain. Sometime back, I had to make a big decision. It involved my course of study in the University. Being very analytic,  I was confused and torn on what to do because the course I was offered admission to study was not in any way appealing.  Anyway,  long story short,  I didn't know what to do and it made me sad almost all the time. So,  again, think and know if there's any decision you need to make that you're confused about.  At least,  counsel and advice could help in this case. 

4. LOW SELF ESTEEM: Yes.  This is a major cause of sadness.  Seeing as I don't have a degree in Behavioural/Clinical psychology, I can't really explain the dynamics. I just know that when you feel and think less of yourself,  it makes you very sad.  You feel like you're not important and not needed or wanted by people around.  Everything and everyone makes you feel like toilet paper. Trust me guys,  it's a bad place to be in. People who have this problem often need professional help.  And it doesn't mean that any other thing is surely wrong with this person.  It just means they've been exposed to a lot of unhealthy situations and people and information. Do you have low self esteem?  You're prone to severe depression if you do. 

Well,  I hope this has helped you put a finger on why you feel bad all the time or what may be dragging you by the feet into depression. If there's anything I've left out, I'll talk about it in the next post. 

Have anything to contribute?  Let's talk in the comment section. 

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NO SIZE FITS ALL

PC: ourlifeisbeautiful.com

A one-size-fits-all never fits all.
You were created to be somebody's perfect size
And many people's good fit,
So don't fret,  don't cry
When many hands push you aside on the rack,
Think of the perfect body
That you were made for,
Because you'll hug it tight,
You'll hide its nakedness,
You'll give it warmth.
Dear person,
Be your own size.

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LETTERS TO ME

How many ideas lay asleep on the pages of my book? 
When will they be given bodies and made alive? 
Where is their breath of life? 
Is their maker struggling for life too? 
If so,  would they ever be put to bed?

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ON PEDOPHILIA AND SOCIAL ACCEPTANCE by Ikenna Echewodo Chinyeaka

The issue of Pedophilia  has been on the desk for quite some time now and it is astonishing to hear and see that society wants to consider it acceptable. There are certain things that remain wrong no matter how many consider it normal.  We can't go along with the mainstream on everything especially on pedophilia.  Well,  that's if they are trying to say it is not wrong in every sense of the word.  Let's see what what an embittered  graduate of Law has to say about it.

"Because I know some of the people who can view my social media posts probably have secret pedophilic affinities and urges, let me make it clear that if I hear any of you abused a child, I'll put my feet to the ground and make sure you get the punishment you totally deserve.

It's totally embarrassing to know that even now, some persons are pushing advocacy for the integration of pedophiles into the LGBTQ+ community and it is worse, living with the fear that the international community feels there's a discussion to be had on the issue.

It is true that there's been a heated debate across the world over the extent of liberalism and liberation that can be afforded individuals with respect to sexual orientations and while I think it is well within individual rights for persons to exercise sexual franchise in a wide array of inclinations, it is implausible and absolutely unjustifiable to say that sexual exploitation of any sort should be allowed.

This is very basic and I know a lot of you are aware but I'll still explain for the sake of directional clarity.

The dynamics of power-play are very crucial and often regulated in a lot of circumstances and that's why activities like insider trading that guarantees asymmetry of business information is morally and legally wrong in a lot of instances. The reason for this is that it unfairly tips the balance in favour of one party over the other.

How does this seemingly far fetched example fit into the framework of the conversation on pedophiles, you may ask? Sexual abuse and exploitation.
On the one hand, it is trite in psychology and other behavioural sciences that children cannot validly give consent to certain activities because they either do not fully grasp the implications such activities may bode for them even where it is thoroughly explained and again, because even if they do which is of course rarely the case, they are not physically and mentally psyched for indulgence as this may irreparably hurt them and skew their growth process.
Essentially, the point is that children can't give consent on certain occasions and even if they can, they can't live with the consequences.
I am yet to see anyone successfully argue against and be taken seriously with the contentions in the last slide especially as it borders on sexual capacity.
Knowing how this may harm children, the biggest thing pedophiles bring to the table is the age long justification of having a biological imperative to be sexually attracted to children and this doesn't cut it for me nor should it cut it for anyone.
Why? I'll explain.
Much in the same way we don't take rapists seriously when they claim to have been tempted or even more befittingly, kleptomaniacs when they can show a psychological dimension to being incapable of keeping their hands to themselves, we should never use the argument of biological imperatives to justify clear instances of exploitation and abuse because then it would mean that the brazenness of human nature would be free to run amok unchecked and apologists would always have a strong defence in their arsenal.
We can't justify everything like that.
If you truly can't control yourself against children, maybe it's time to plan a long holiday to a psychiatric facility because honestly, you're a danger to society and we are not obligated to tolerate you.
We've been putting mad people away for ages for being mad, I'm not sure there'll be a problem with quarantining persons who have presented a severe case of psychological imbalance if it helps us protect vulnerable groups like children.
Thank you."

While there are conflicting issues on what is right and what is not,  we should not hesitate to remember to fight for what is human/humane.

If you have questions for the writer,  direct them to his facebook page @Ikenna Echewodo Chinyeaka.
You can drop your comments too.

Ikenna Echewodo Chinyeaka is a Human Rights activist who just graduated from the University of Calabar as a Law student.  He hopes to and is actively engaged in bringing social change through debating and public speaking.

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